My Word for 2019

Looking back on my posts I was sure I had done "my word for..." in 2017 but it seems last year was the only year I took part.

At the end of December I started thinking about what my word would be, and I came up with what I thought was the perfect name....and then I forgot it. So I figured it wasn't my word. 

I then stressed a bit because I thought I would end up with a word that was too obvious or boring or picking something at random that didn't mean anything at all.

And then it came to me, and has been going through my head non stop and not only means something in itself, but also branches off to mean a lot more also. 

The definition of 'be' pretty much sums up exactly why I have chosen it as my word for 2019.
1. exist.
2. occur; take place.

I feel like I want to exist a bit more, to do more, and to enjoy life more. To not sit around planning things and thinking how nice it would be to do things, and instead just go and do them.
Last years holidays and mini breaks gave me a taste of just getting on and getting out there and doing things. Walking, visiting, driving. Anything. Just being.

To be alert, be organised, be involved, be proactive, be productive, be a better mother, be a better adult, be a better person.
Be a better version of me.

To just....BE.

Tips to Remember When Buying a Used Car

When it came to buying my car I was so overwhelmed and knew that I needed to have an idea in mind of what I wanted before and whilst I looked. I knew roughly what I wanted in terms of space (enough for 2 suitcases in the boot), enough growing room in the back for my children, a cd player, air con, something not too expensive to run, and comfy to drive as I do like to drive long distances as and when needed.

My biggest tip is to research where you are buying from. Look at dealerships in other areas as well as your local area as it might be worth travelling to get that ideal car for you. In the past I have travelled 130 miles to get a used car because it was exactly what we wanted, ticked all the boxes, but just happened to be a little further out of town than ‘local’.
Researching dealerships can help to see what services they provide, especially in terms of after care, the brands they sell, and to see reviews on their service.
KAP Motors offer an amazing collection of Fiat used cars at their Brighton centre. Check their range online.

When buying my car I was told straight away how many previous owners the car had. Why is this important if the car looks ok? It is important because it will give a clearer view on the cars history. The more owners a car has had, the older it usually is and ultimately, the more miles it has driven.
It will help to find out how and when the car has been driven. Was it just used for short journeys to and from work, or was it used for longer trips? Driven mostly on motorways or country lanes? A car driven mostly on country lanes will have potentially used their brakes a lot more than one on a motorway and would have to deal with potholes, which could have caused different wear and tear on the car.

Check paperwork before you buy. Is everything available, and if isn’t is there any way of getting hold of it?
The logbook or V5C.
Servicing booklet, this when the car was last serviced, as well as what's been repaired/replaced.
Manuals.
Spares. If you were expecting a spare wheel, check it’s there along with the tools needed to change it. As well as a spare key.
Sales contract. Make sure you get a dated sales contract showing that you've completed the deal and paid the right money. Check your name and address, plus the full details of the car, the agreed price, and any payments already made.

Dear 2019

Dear 2019

You have a lot to live up to. Last year was great. It obviously had its down times, in fact a few of those with two deaths in the family, one of which I am finding it incredibly hard to still come to terms with, as well as the passing of a blogging friend. 

It was definitely one of those "life is for living" reminders. 

I wrote my Dear 2018 post and wrote down some words that explained my expectations and my wishes for that year. 

Memories, strength, the best version of myself, confidence, belief, growth, knowledge, faith, strength, trust, determination. 

I also wrote a post about my promises for the year:

Save money, be in control of finances and outgoings, lose weight, write more, meditate, oracle cards. 

I can honestly say I only really did well with meditate and oracle cards. The others were a fail. But never mind. Not worth stressing or beating myself up over. 

To focus on 2019 I feel it's important to look back on 2018. To look on areas that worked and that made me feel better. 

I receive emails from a newsletter called Wild Arisings and I've just received one that I think goes well with this post that I write.

“What do I REALLY want in 2019?”    

What do I want from 2019, pretty much the same as 2018, but maybe a bit more security. To feel a little more, well, a lot more secure, in a few aspects of my life. 

Some of it is to do with things I cause, with my actions, and other things to do with other people, choices and things out of my or anyone elses control.

I've not had the best start to the year, but, I will not let that define how my year will be. 
It doesn't mean that this is how my year will be, and in fact has made me realise that it is down to me to guide what happens, down to me to decide on what controls my life, and down to me to react in the way best for me.

I guess in 2019 I am going to make me more important. 
Looking after myself, my needs, my wants, my feelings. Make me a priority and to look after myself, no matter what the consequences are.

Last year I worked a little on my own strength and not being so concerned about what other people thought of me, or of other peoples opinions. And this year, I am going to work further on that. 
To speak up for myself, and to not worry about whether or not people like my hair, like my tattoos, think I'm fat or so on.

2019, I want you to be my year of focus on me. On happiness, being content, secure, confident and sure that everything I do is for me. 

And that's it. No list of other things to focus on, nothing else to wish for or want. A simple, realistic goal to look after me.