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24.2.11

Doing things differently second time around.

A lot of the comments and questions I've had since finding out about boy bump number two revolve around "will you do anything different this time?" "will you breastfeed for as long?" "will you co-sleep?" etc.
Its something I've thought about, going back to the early newborn days and how we did things then, to how we did things at 6 months, 12 months, 18 months and beyond.
We very much did things following Charles' lead. I breastfed on demand, we co-slept [not something I'd planned to do but when we got back from the hospital for our first night together he just did not want to sleep in his moses basket, so co-sleeping started. We slept on a futon in the nursery, leaving my husband in the big comfy king size bed in our bedroom. But it didn't matter at all to me. It was so much easier with night feeds and stupid o clock nappy changes to be in the nursery and meant I [Charles] didn't wake up my husband.

I ended up breastfeeding for 18 months, we co-slept for 6 months and then on and off until Charles was around 12 months. We had no real form of routine until he was 12 months when he decided he wanted to go to bed at 7 every night. 
We spent most of our days cuddling with him asleep on my chest or feeding. He spent some time in a bouncer and then when old enough was in a door bouncer and walker, but nothing could ever beat a mummy cuddle.
He wouldn't take a dummy and would stress over a bottle of EBM (formula was never considered as just not needed or necessary)

This time round, I  will do almost everything the same. Although I have to accept that I won't be able to give constant sleepy cuddles to the new boy as well as entertaining Charles. So we are investing in a swing [thanks to my mum] have a second bouncer [gift from my friend] so we will have one bouncer upstairs, and another bouncer downstairs. We will be buying a second moses basket stand, to encourage us to use it more for naptimes, before we found it such a faff to bring down the basket, then go and get the stand, set it all up to then have to take it all back upstairs again. 
Will possibly use a play nest or sit me up cosy too, and get more use out of the play mat!
Co-sleeping and breastfeeding are a definite on my to do list!
I'd like to avoid dummies this time around again, if possible, but if needed then we will use them. And we will try to encourage the bottled EBM a bit more, so I expect to be doing a lot of pumping!
Meal plans will be better thought out too rather than last minute takeaways.
And, if I can get someone to look after the boys for an hour and a half....a hair cut asap after giving birth!

Another thing I will do differently this time round is to get more wear out of the clothes we have. Thankfully with having another boy a lot of the clothes will be recycled, I got into a habit with Charles of just sticking him in a white bodysuit all day (it was summer and we spent most of our time at home due to me not being able to drive)
This time I will also go out more. I passed my driving test last June, just after Charles' first birthday and it was the best thing I'd ever done....and also not doing it sooner and being so restricted for Charles' first year is one of my, if not my only, regret.

Would be interested to hear [read] any tips anyone has for coping with a newborn and toddler.....what to do and what not to do etc.
I need to prove people wrong and show I can cope :-)