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24.8.16

Flaws

I recently helped out with interviews at my workplace. My manager asked me to come up with some questions and I wanted to avoid the typical "easy, predictable answer" style questions.
I didn't want to do the strengths and weaknesses questions because they are predictable, and get the standard answers. However, I wanted to go along the lines of weaknesses. I wanted someone to sit there and be open about their down side. Interviews are all about impressing your potential employer but for me, I wanted to know what we might not like about them, or what we might find difficult to work with, or challenging.
So the question I asked was "what are your flaws?".

I thought it was better than "what are your weaknesses?" because to me the word 'flaws' was a little more personal and not just profession/career related.
Weaknesses could also result in answers such as "chocolate" or "men in uniform"...not quite what I wanted.


I've always found it a positive thing to be in touch with your flaws, to recognise them. There is that saying that I really like...


When writing my down I realised when writing these that I wrote "too much" at the end of each flaw...maybe that's a flaw in itself. So I took those off.

I tend to over-think. I over think situations, the way people treat me, look at me, what certain things mean even if it's something completely insignificant.

I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm not afraid to show my emotions and to talk about how I feel. Maybe I show this and share this too much and need to hold back and be a bit more cautious over who I share things with.

I try to impress others often forgetting that people should like me and love me for who I am, not for the person I am trying to be.



I give too much of myself. I'm really open and honest and although I see this as a good thing I think sometimes it can be interpreted in a different way.

Lack of self confidence and self worth. I don't value myself very much. I have been told a few times that I am too hard on myself. Maybe I am, but I don't really see it.

Easily distracted.......



Can be disorganised. This year is major proof of that. Not sure what I would have done without my mum in most cases.

Need to have a label on every relationship. "Are we friends or just work colleagues?" "Are we seeing each other, dating, or nothing?" I need to have a label on everything.

I worry about what others think of me. I have always felt like everyone around me is judging me or criticising me as a person, as a mother, what I look like and so on. It's something I've never been able to shake off and something that can hold me back from things.


I don't look after myself enough. I forget to take medication when I need to, I don't drink enough water, I don't eat well. Also....see the following two flaws for more examples.

I comfort eat. I generally tend to not realise I am doing it until it is too late.

I bite my nails....disgusting habit and every now and then I am able to stop but right now...I'm back as a biter and I hate it.



I daydream a lot...and get too caught up in it.

I take things to heart. I do have a habit of taking things to heart too much. Sometimes I can take a joke as something personal and see it as a criticism when it isn't meant that way. This is just a result/effect of me not having that self confidence and thinking everyone is judging me.

I let paranoia take over. Rolling over from over thinking. I do get paranoid...wondering why someone didn't reply to something, or why someone hasn't said hi to me at work or on the school run. I let things play over in my mind until I get a headache or until I beat myself up so much that I end up exhausted.