NLP Sessions with Rebecca Cousins | Review

Since I was 15 I have suffered with anxiety and depression. I feel like recently it's almost become fashionable to have say you suffer with anxiety, and lets face it we all suffer with it in some form. There can't be one person in this world who doesn't ever feel anxious or nervous or feelings of worry over anything.
I've been on and off anti-depressants for years. I've seen various "therapists" and "cbt counsellors" and had mixed feelings over them. I even attended a stress workshop, so I'd say I have done a lot to try and help myself.

My faith and being into meditation has helped me a lot over the last two years. It has helped my head to settle and for me to cope with breathing. But I've also let myself have days when I am not ok. I accept days when I just want to shut myself away and not be part of the world.
And I will still accept those days and those moments and those feelings.
However, one thing I can't accept anymore is bullying myself and constantly feeling like I am not good enough.

I am very open to trying new things and to doing whatever I can to try and help myself and those around me. So when I had an amazing opportunity to work with an NLP Practitioner, Rebecca Cousins, I couldn't pass it up.

After learning about NLP and qualifying as a practitioner and a Timeline Therapist Rebecca has been thrilled by the impact these tools can bring. Although Rebecca specialises in working with children and parents, she also extends her practice to help adults to bring change and clarity, allowing them to live fuller, richer and happier lives.

What is NLP?
Neuro: How we organise our thoughts through our senses; visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory and gustatory.
Linguistic: The language we use to communicate with ourselves and others.
Programming: The way we organise our ideas and actions to produce results

I've always been interested in how my brain and my head works, why certain thoughts come into my head and why I believe certain things and why I can't just switch my thoughts off.

Rebecca sent me a form for us to look at what exactly we would be working on.

What do you specifically want from this session?
A settled mind and to be able to focus on myself and not on other people. To realise I am good enough despite what other people think of me or expect from me and that it is ok to put myself first and to not worry about others all the time.
I also want to be able to switch off from other peoples problems and to not feel like I have to take them on too. To feel brave and strong enough to stand up for myself and to not feel guilty.
To be strong enough to say no to people and to be confident enough to put myself first.

I had two sessions with Rebecca. I felt so nervous at first, I've never been completely comfortable talking on Skype or similar but as soon as we got started I realised just how lovely Rebecca is and I soon relaxed.
We talked through my issues, through my history. We talked about how Rebecca works and what NLP is.

There was one event from 2009 that I felt was bothering me and was something that I felt would still play on my mind and get me anxious and worked up.
We talked through this event and put together a timeline of events to talk through. At the beginning I felt a certain way, I felt anxious, worked up, strong for standing up to someone but still with a "why me? what did I do?" feeling. By the end of the practice I felt none of the hurt, and negativity anymore. I felt brave, proud and strong. With no question or doubt over how I reacted in that situation and of what I could have done differently.
I accepted that I did the best I could and even now, thinking back I don't feel how I felt before.
Everything feels better and if I try to find those old feelings in my head I can't.

I was amazed that in such a short amount of time, and with this technique, a big change was able to happen.
We went through another technique for me to use any time I need to feel calm, and to give myself some power and confidence. I found it really easy to do this technique, and was given homework to use it in certain situations and to report back as to whether or not it had worked.

A week later I had another call with Rebecca and we talked through how the techniques I had learnt had helped me.
As we talked I realised I had made some significant changes already and was really pleased with how well I had done. I was amazed at what Rebecca was able to teach me.
Then, looking at the belief that "I am not good enough", we went through some other techniques. I think that because I meditate I found this easy to do.
By the end of the techniques Rebecca asked me to describe how I felt and I realised that I didn't have that belief anymore.
I couldn't remember how it felt to not feel good enough anymore.
I felt quite overwhelmed that all of a sudden this feeling was blocked out of my head, and as hard as I tried I couldn't find that feeling I had before.

This week I sent Rebecca over a list of moments in the last week or so (I was late with my homework) where I have used the techniques she has taught me, and also looking at situations I have been in and how I have reacted.

It wasn't until I wrote this list down, and looked over it that I realised how much I have changed.
It still amazes me that these two sessions, sat on my sofa, talking to someone over Skype, has managed to benefit my life in such a big way.

I feel a lot stronger. A lot more confident about my decisions and about who I am. About what I deserve and what I don't deserve.
I have Rebecca to thank for that.
Rebecca has a calming voice and nature and has a way about her that instantly makes you feel relaxed. I felt immediately like I could tell her anything and even when I got a little teary I wouldn't have felt at all uncomfortable to sob in front of her either.

I would highly recommend anyone who has any type of issue or problem they want help with to have a look to see if an NLP session with Rebecca would be suitable for you.
I think one of the main benefits is that it can be done in your own home over Skype. It certainly helps to feel more comfortable and being able to relax and to avoid distractions.

Keep an eye out for further posts on here about NLP and how it has benefited me and my life.

If you want to find out more about NLP, and to contact Rebecca Cousins, you can do so by clicking on this link.

To follow Rebecca or get in touch you can do so on the link above or following these links below.

Bec, thank you so much for working with me and for being extremely supportive. You made a difficult couple of weeks a lot easier. I can't thank you enough.



March 2018 Lust List

The boys were treated to some new shoes by my Nanny last week. They chose a pair of Converse each (the top ones on the collage below). I really like that look when they are matching but with different colours. 
Harry really wanted me to get the same as him as we found an adult version. His are the Burgundy ones. As much as I really like the Burgundy ones I have also been torn between those, the turquoise and mint ones, as well as the yellow and the blue camo print. 
I haven't quite decided if I will get a pair yet, I am a bit of a cheapskate when it comes to shoes so would need to find them cheap to buy them. 

We will ignore the fact I have said I am a cheapskate when it comes to buying shoes, as my next lust for this month is Mac lipstick. I am off to Fuerteventura in a couple of weeks which means obviously a trip to the airport! Woo. For a while I have thought about treating myself to a coral lipstick, although I do have a couple of similar colours, and so have decided to research to see roughly which colours I will look out for. I don't really want to force my boyfriend to stand and shop with me for ages so decided researching before I go will equal less faffing.
I also found a 10% off duty free voucher...printed myself off five of those just in case our flight gets delayed and I get more shopping time obviously...or we forget any essentials.
I'd also love to get a new charm for my Pandora Bracelet from the airport, if there is a Pandora shop in there. There's no way my boyfriend would let me get a tattoo on holiday to mark our first holiday together so I think a Pandora is the next best thing.
If he sticks to what he has to far threatened about embarrassing me on the plane then I think the plane will be the best one to go for. And it is kind of cute.



Sundays #5


This Sunday was a boy Sunday with the added bonus of having my boyfriend too. 
We did well with the clocks going forward, surprisingly, as I'd asked them to stay in bed until 7.30 (and was basing this on the clock I hadn't put forward).
At 7.18 I heard a "Mummy, we stayed in bed. Can we get up now?". Up they got and I put the clock forward to 8.30....it felt like a mild achievement.
The only two things I really had planned for the day were going to a local vintage shop as they had a sale and I've wanted some new dining chairs for quite a while, and a roast dinner.

We got up, breakfasted the boys and I prepped our vegetables for dinner. I helped Harry to tie his shoelaces as my nanny just bought him a new pair of shoes with laces and he doesn't know how to tie them himself. He didn't do too bad for a first attempt. 
Then we headed out to Beccles to the vintage shop. I straight away found 2 chairs that were exactly what I wanted...and they were only £5!! I found another two which were also that cheap but they didn't match. I almost went for those too but thankfully went inside and found two matching chairs that were £15 each...managed to get those down to £10 each and happily handed over £30 for 4 beautiful wooden chairs which will at some point be repainted.
We saw my mum and her boyfriend there and the boys went off to have a look around with them and me and my boyfriend had a look around too. 
I managed to stop myself from buying a 1987 Isle of Man Ordnance Map (but I really wanted it!!) but did buy a fish knife and fork set for £2.50. Again, a lovely set. 
I seem to have a think for old cutlery. The cutlery we use at home used to belong to my nanny. She sent a few things over from Somerset when me and the boys got this house and the cutlery is one of my favourite things. 

As everyone was well behaved I said I would treat us to cake and a drink at a local garden centre. We drove there, had delicious cake and had a little look round.
The spring flowers looked so beautiful. I'm now regretting not buying any to put in the planters at the front of my house, but we were all distracted by the bees. There were so many of them and we were watching them work. My boyfriend got a little attached to one of them and it was letting him stroke it. It was quite sweet to watch. 
I bought some tubs, and a baking tray. 

As we left I asked if anyone wanted to go to the horse sanctuary nearby. I haven't ever been and me and the boys attempted to go a few weekends ago but decided against it because it was so cold. 
It is free entry which actually we were quite glad about as we weren't there for long at all and it was super basic. 
It was lovely to see the horses, and we all got pretty attached to the Shetland Ponies. I know people have said before how horses are spiritual animals and I had this lovely moment with one of the ponies. He came over to me, his mane hanging down his face everywhere. I usually don't enjoy stroking horses or ponies etc but this one I couldn't resist. 
I was knelt down and he brought his head closer to mine. I had an urge to put my head against his and we stayed for a few minutes with our heads resting against each other. Almost like forehead to forehead. I felt so safe and content and it was a really lovely, beautiful moment. 

We then left and popped to the supermarket to grab dessert and a couple of bits for a mid afternoon lunch and then came home.
Me and my boyfriend pretty much collapsed on the sofa when we got in. The boys went and played outside. 
The weather had been so lovely, we were convinced Spring was here and it was surprisingly warm. 
I think that, the fresh air and the busy morning, had wiped us out. 

We had a little lunch of homemade potato salad, and a pork pie, and just chilled out for the rest of the afternoon. 
I got a bit of housework done, even though it didn't even look like it. Got the old chairs piled up and the new ones around the table. 

The rest of the evening was our chicken roast...which was amazing if I do say so myself. I think I exceeded myself with the pigs in blankets especially.
The boys had a bath, dessert and went to bed surprisingly with no trouble  It was reasonably dark at 8pm so that probably helped.
After having a bath ourselves and sorting some washing we then sat down to watch a film. We only got halfway through until we decided it was bed time as my boyfriend has to get up early to leave for work. 

It was a really lovely Sunday and I really enjoyed myself. 

I can't wait for more with that sort of weather. If it was a taster of what is to come in the next couple months then I am really excited.



How to Make the most of your time online

How many of us now waste hours and hours online? Looking at pretty much all of the internet in one evening, then feeling like we could have used our time better?
Do you ever do that, and then feel like you've completely wasted your time and then think of all the things you could have done instead?

Well, how about looking on the plus side and using your time online for the best. Looking at how it benefits you and what benefits you can get from it. 

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Make friends

Socialise on Twitter and Instagram. Join a forum or Facebook group. You can keep chats going whilst looking at other things on the internet, just keeping a check on any replies via notifications.

Free stuff

Searching ‘Freebies UK’ in Google will give you the chance to find websites that offer sample products, chances to test free products as well as other opportunities. Surely that's one of the best ways of using your online time wisely. Feel like you are wasting time...yet getting something out of it. That is called balance.


If you do a lot of your shopping online, or any shopping online in fact, it's worth looking at Cashback sites. A lot of them have different options either by saving money or earning money.
This is also worth looking into when you are wanting to switch energy providers, looking for holidays, or looking for insurance as the cashback allowance for these can be quite substantial at times.


Benefits to bike riding


Bike riding is good on the environment, using minimal fossil fuels and pollution-free. As well as that, the more bikes that are used then the possibility is that less cars will be made. Bikes are better on the environment when it comes to being made as well as being used.

Cheap hobby

The great thing about cycling is that it is a cheap hobby. The biggest expense is likely to be the bike itself, and with further Bike Discounts on accessories and other pieces needed, the other costs are kept low and affordable.

Can do it as a family

Pretty much anyone can ride a bike...it's just their choice as to whether or not they do it.
We teach children to ride a bike from an early age so it seems only right to then make it a hobby and activity to do as a family.

Explore different areas...keep it local or go further

If you can't afford a bike rack or dont have enough room to fit a bike in the back of your car, then riding in your local area, to the supermarket, nature reserve or park is ideal. 

Improve your health

Cycling can not only help boost your energy, burn calories, tone your body, but can also help to improve mental health. Taking time out of work or household situations and being out in the fresh air can be really good for the mind, as well as for the body.


What Is Bad Credit

At one point last year I went to apply for a credit card and was refused, for a little bit more on my overdraft - refused, a loan - refused.
Thinking immediately that this was due to a bad credit report, something that must have only recently happened as my credit score was checked when I applied to rent my current house, I did that thing of panicking and burying my head in the sand.
The bad score would have been down to one credit card I had applied for and used online, which due to an admin error was never sent to me and paperwork was never sent, so I was unable to know how to pay, when to pay, and who to pay.

I then met my boyfriend and two months after being together we had a discussion about money. I admitted that I was sure my credit score was horribly low and feeling ashamed we checked it online.
He was really supportive, because this is something which can be embarrassing, and as we checked we saw that actually my credit score was really good and was better than most people in my area.

Although it's not important or urgently necessary for me to have a credit card, it was something I wanted to do in case of emergency's. It frustrated me that due to one card and an admin error I was then penalised not only with late payment charges (which were thankfully removed) but also with a bad credit score for a while.
However, even with bad credit you have options.

So what exactly is bad credit?

Bad credit is the result of a past failure in keeping up with credit agreements. This is either not paying on time or not paying at all. And the inability to be approved for credit by other lenders.

You would probably have an idea of whether you have bad credit, especially if you have been missing payments. Another sign is if you have applications turned down, lowered credit limits on current cards or increased interest rates.

There is no universal cut off between a good credit score and a bad credit score, however if your score is around 620 it is generally considered as a bad credit score.
Checking your credit report will help you figure out what's causing your credit score to be low, and will help with guidance on how to fix it and how to improve your future lending options.


To Do | Spring and Summer Activities

Go to the Circus

I saw tickets for a Circus on Groupon last week and snapped those up ready for a Sunday in a few weeks time.
It was £10 for a ticket for 2 or £19 for a ticket for 5, so it seemed more logical to go for a ticket for 5 and have a spare seat, saving a measly £1 but stopping any drama between the boys sitting next to strangers and also having a seat for our coats and bags.
The circus is a travelling one which comes to this area a lot in the warmer months. It's an hour and a half away so we will spend the morning travelling over and going to the beach as its on the coast and then having a picnic or lunch somewhere as our show is at 3.
I'm sure me and my boyfriend will enjoy it, I just hope the boys do too.
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Crabbing has been on my to do list for years now, ever since me and my brother took Charles when he was only little.
I think I had this fear of going by myself with the boys in case a crab nipped me or in case we did something wrong.
I'd love to be able to do this in the summer with my boys and my boyfriend.
It's funny when you have the scenarios in your mind of things you can do together.
Again, crabbing down the coast with a picnic...I'm thinking picnics need to happen as often as possible.

Kite Flying

The boys were bought some kites a few years ago and we haven't really taken the opportunity to fly them as much as we should. 
This is definitely something I want to do more of in the Spring and Summer and is something I should really do with them after school to pass the time between school run-tea-bed.
Living on the coast gives us plenty of places to go to fly the kites, and this would also give us a good excuse to explore the local area.


As soon as it is warm enough to stand outside for an hour at least without any part of the body freezing I want to have a barbecue. I failed last year by not having one, despite eventually building the barbecue I got for a bargain from work the year before. 
I guess I am a bit of a wimp when it comes to that sort of stuff, fire really, and am following the stereotype of needing a man to do that job.

Stock Car Racing

Again, another thing I've wanted to do the last couple of years and haven't done it, watching the Stock Car Racing at Great Yarmouth. I love the adrenaline, the smell, the sounds and just the atmosphere of it all. It's such a lovely evening out...as long as it isn't too cold.
The only downside is that it is expensive, especially for a whole family, so you have to choose carefully and make sure its likely to be good races, good weather and not too busy.



Sundays #4

I always used to enjoy reading Charlottes 'Weekend Posts' and it's something I've wanted to take inspiration from for a while. Particularly since being with my boyfriend as my weekends aren't spent all lonely by myself wondering what to do.
I work every Saturday so my alternative to a weekend post is to document my Sundays. Sometimes its just a lazy day but I am now trying to make more of an effort, even if it is a home day I try to at least make it special by making a good breakfast or having something really nice for dinner.
Sunday this week was boy free but a lovely one anyway because it was the one Sunday I get a month where it is just me and my boyfriend. 
We woke up really early which was good as we were due to meet my mum, her boyfriend, my brother and his girlfriend for breakfast. Well, we fell back asleep and I woke up at 9.30 to a Whatsapp message telling me they were all awake and waiting for us. We quickly got up, got dressed, switched on the tortoises and said good morning to them and made coffees but then plans then changed (not due to us being up later) and we were due to meet after 11. I cleared the kitchen and did the dishwasher, and took the chance to listen to some of the Blood Brothers album on Spotify (any excuse). 

The first place we planned to eat was full so we went to our local Wetherspoons. I almost went for a full English breakfast but had been thinking about Eggs Benedict for a while and was glad to see those on the menu. The Hollandaise sauce wasn't as strong as I usually like but it was delicious anyway. It was the first time my brother and his girlfriend were meeting my boyfriend and it went well which was lovely...although not sure how it could have gone wrong to be fair.

With no other real plans for the day me and my boyfriend drove to Tesco in Great Yarmouth, rather than my local one just so we could go for a drive and also because "why not" and then decided to go to Norwich to have a look around Go Outdoors. We then stopped at TKMaxx, he stayed in the car and I went in for a look, before driving home.

When we came home we just relaxed for the rest of the afternoon and evening. We had a hot drink, lit some candles, and didn't really do much else. I made us a pasta bake for dinner, along with some Scampi that was in the freezer, and we ate some Ferrero Rocher I managed to find reduced in the local shop.

I struggled at the end of the evening with some personal things going on in my mind but we did our Oracle Cards and then went to bed.
Just before going up I spotted the tablets I'd lost from the vets last week and needed to give the cats.
A quick look on Youtube and we managed, eventually, to administer 3 tablets to 3 not very happy cats.


Why get a hair transplant?

I think that when it comes to certain cosmetic procedures, it's easier for women to come forward to admitting to having work done or for seeking help.
Breast implants, lip fillers, botox and so on, probably because it's more common for women to have any cosmetic work and there isn't as much of a stigma attached to it.
There's also the issue of grey hair for example. Me and my brother both started going grey in our early 20's, and it is more acceptable for me to dye my hair to cover the grey than it would be for my brother to do it.

Whereas for men, I think it's a little more of an issue to be brave and say "Hey, I'm not happy with X, Y, Z, and I'm going to do something about it".
There is a lot more judgement, a lot more comments, and almost that fear of losing their masculinity and "going soft" (which isn't the case whatsoever).

A friend of mine recently posted on Facebook about having a hair transplant.
I was amazed, and felt a real sense of respect for him for not only having it done, but for being so open about it.

In my two years of single life, I found that a lot of men I talked to on dating sites, or went on dates with, were bald. Now that was either just me being attracted to them or the fact that there were more bald men out there....or a mixture of the two.
Whether it be due to a receding hairline, or patches of hair loss, it results in men then feeling like they need to shave their whole head. Which is fine if that looks suits you, and if you are confident about it.
But what if it doesn't suit you? Or if it knocks your confidence?

Why get a hair transplant?

I think the biggest reason is for confidence. I don't like to use the word vanity because it's not about being vane. And as someone who has had lip fillers I understand that it's about feeling more like yourself, and lets face it, there are people out there who will make comments and jokes related to receding hairlines, bald patches and hair loss and that doesn't help with confidence. So if there is a way to avoid that, then why not?

FUE (Follicular Unit Extraction) is a hair transplant method exclusively performed for patients at the Harley Street Hair Clinic.
An experienced doctor extracts hair follicles from the donor area, which tends to be the back of the neck as this is an area that is unaffected by hairloss, and transfers these to the scalp in groups of one to four hairs.
The surgery is performed under local aesthetic with short recovery, low risk of complications and isn't very invasive. Due to it being a simple procedure, it doesn't leave any scaring or noticeable marks.

However not everyone is suitable for it, so as with any kind of surgery it is best to speak to a surgeon to discuss what you want the results to be, and why you are doing it.

Research exactly what you want from it, costs and look into call backs and consultations before deciding whether or not this is right for you.

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Sundays #3

I always used to enjoy reading Charlottes 'Weekend Posts' and it's something I've wanted to take inspiration from for a while. Particularly since being with my boyfriend as my weekends aren't spent all lonely by myself wondering what to do.
I work every Saturday so my alternative to a weekend post is to document my Sundays. Sometimes its just a lazy day but I am now trying to make more of an effort, even if it is a home day I try to at least make it special by making a good breakfast or having something really nice for dinner.
Ahhhhh Mothering Sunday. 
The Sunday we all wish, and hope, and pray for a day of peace, quiet, rest and well behaved children.
Of course this is the one day they will do as I ask and stay in bed past 7am. That they will listen to the request of staying in bed as long as they can.
.......6.30am they are downstairs, and I accept that any form of a lay in is out of the cards. 
It was rather sweet. I opened my bedroom door to find my present, however I walked past it more wanting them to hand me my gift.
I came downstairs to the smell of coffee. They'd made a coffee for me and my boyfriend (albeit a bit strong but the effort was massively appreciated) and I opened my lovely cards from them and opened my beautiful Buddha head.
I wanted to watch some classic Disney. Dumbo wasn't available on Sky Movies so we opted for Bedknobs and Broomsticks. Did you know that Angela Lansbury is now 92??!! Aged gracefully and absolutely beautiful. 

I made us all a little breakfast of sausage, bacon and toast (and mushrooms for me and my boyfriend) and then we all got dressed, and Harry handed me the badge he had made me to wear that day.
I quickly popped into my mums to give her her card and the two candles I bought her then we headed over to Norfolk, basically for a long drive and to help my boyfriend out with something.
On the way back we stopped off at Morrisons Cafe for a coffee and cake and picked up some bits for dinner. My boyfriend managed to get some reduced cooked chickens so that was our roast sorted! 
I let the boys choose some new pyjamas and Harry pick some trainers and then we drove home. 

The boys were bathed, and I decided to look online to see if Jim Davidson was on tour in our area this year. Nothing showed up so I thought I would look at local theatres to see if there was anyone interesting coming up. 
Then I saw that he is in Great Yarmouth in July, two days after my boyfriends birthday, so I bought us tickets for that. I'm really excited as I've grown up watching Jim Davidson on my tv and find him really funny so am looking forward to that. 

We all ate our roast and the rest of the evening was pretty dull and uneventful, other than doing my Oracle Cards. This time I meditated and spent some time running a question through my head, but the cards didn't seem to refer to that so I'm wondering if they are trying to get me to focus on something else and to tell me that the question I was asking was irrelevant or unnecessary to my life....or something I needn't worry about. 
It didn't unsettle me but it's made me more aware of what my cards have to offer.

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